When There is a Need to Hide the Truth
July 21, 2008Lately, there has been some underhanded shit going on. Deception is in the horizon again and it’s got all the markings of ex’s hands.
Yesterday, after picking up Bella and on our way to dinner, when my little girl says to me, “Dad, we came from somewhere but I can’t tell you cause you might say something negative about him.”
“What the fuck?” I thought to myself, then decided to ask. “Negative about who?” not liking this conversation one bit. “I can’t tell you.” she answers back. “Well, okay Bella, that’s your prerogative. But I am not comfortable about you hiding stuff from me. You know you can tell me anything and I don’t see why I would say anything negative about ‘him’ since I don’t really know who he is?” I said, trying something to break the ice.
“His name is ______. And we came from his house this morning. He has a lot of dogs and a beautiful house, a laptop and a car.” She confessed.
“So I go, Alright then, but I don’t see why you need to hide it from me. I mean, I don’t mind if your mom gets a boyfriend. Afterall, we are separated.” I explained.
“He’s not her boyfriend, he’s too old and he’s mom’s yoga instructor.” she explained back.
“Sweety, age gap hasn’t stopped your mother from my experience.” I matter of factly thought to myself. But what I did say was this. “Oh that’s alright baby, there is no need to hide anything from me, cause if you feel the need to hide it, then something must be terribly wrong, embarrasing or shameful about what you just went through. If it’s something as casual as that then there is nothing to hide okay?”
Point is this, I don’t really care if ex was screwing her yoga instructor or not, but hell, I do care when she teaches my kids to lie to their own father. Same underhanded tactics as always, she never was one to advocate truthfulness, but sheesh, have a little decency to teach your kids the right lessons in life.
Consider this, her telling my daughter not to tell people that we are separated? Truth omission once again. Plus she doesn’t realize what it does to Bella. Cause from my vantage point, it is fueling false hope of us getting back together again and of course, Bella will cling to such hope which I try very hard not to give her.
Sigh…. now, I’m thinking if I should confront ex about this or not. I wish she would just elope with another man and leave the three of us alone.
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Yeah, you’re right Ade. Besides, I’m having a grand time this month I refuse to let her or anyone spoil it.
Thanks man!
Posted by ramblingvirus at July 21, 2008, 8:12 pmYarrr! Major red flag on that, dude.. we’re rooting fer ya here.. don’t let us down! Hoist yer, flag, mate! Go Team Virus!!
ok. That was lame.
Seriously, if the kids are being compromised..you must do something about it. you have the right, after all, your the father. JMO.
Posted by Joyce at July 22, 2008, 12:05 amThanks very much Joyce, but I find this is hardly the time for some payback.
Truth of the matter is that people like ex, who get a high for deceiving people, normally get ratted out in the end. I’m not afraid that my kids will look upon me negatively, my reasoning is simple, if they have enough of my blood in those li’l veins I’m sure they will be able to smell a fake sooner or later sans the emotion.
Yep, be wary of people who have too much to hide. They have a lot to be guilty of.
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Oh damn, man. I’m sorry to hear that. I’d normally advise you to confront your ex, but it’ll only make things worse, IMHO.
Posted by Ade at July 21, 2008, 6:02 pm