More Ramblings

How  do you know that your purpose in another person’s life has been fulfilled? This was a question that bugged me in the past year or so.  I personally believe that nothing happens by chance.  We get to meet people because we have a purpose in their lives and vice versa.  Again, it doesn’t matter if the person’s presence in our existence bodes good  or bad (this being subjective), the important thing to remember is that there will always be lessons or insight that can be gleaned from such encounters.

At anyrate, we know that we have fulfilled our purpose when there is nothing more that you can teach the person.  Each person has a unique way of dealing with stuff that happens in our lives.  some people’s ways of dealing with stresses may be much better than how we deal with ours. Others well,……..we’ve seen it before and I guess, no amount of persuasion can make a person who wants to sleep, wake up.  Yep, that’s an Alanis Morisette song. So when that happens, then you just wait for the inevitable and try to be there for them when the shit hits the fan.

I’ve seen/experienced a lot of shitty stuff in my life.  Most of it  came in a series of huge waves that threatened to take me off-balance.  Most of it were learning experiences that deserve to be remembered, while the bad stuff that seem so huge then, look like minute inconveniences now, and are quite laughable when we try to remember how we (over) reacted to them.

Looking back at what I’ve gone through (and hearing comments from friends as well), I am dumbfounded at how I was able to survive.  Shit that I never even dreamed that would happen  to me, happened.  There were times that I thought I would never make it through, but miraculously, I did.  I guess, it was partly because of pride and perseverance.  I knew deep inside that I would be damned if I didn’t make it through this in one piece.  The events threatened to take away who I am, I wasn’t prepared to surrender it. 

I know that I’m a much stronger person now.  Stuff that otherwise, would’ve irritated me before now slam into a teflon wall and just slide into oblivion.  The choice is still ours to make on how we deal with unnerving events.  We can crawl into a corner, waiting for the event to pass by OR we go out and meet it head on, refusing to be intimidated by the enormity of the tasks that you must do.

Life’s too short.  Pain, no matter how intense, is not an eternal emotion.  Fear, although immobilizing, is there to be conquered.  

Okay, lecture done, am going down from my soapbox now.