It’s just one of those days……
August 2, 2007Was a volcano ready to explode yesterday. Work has been particularly pretty hard the past days and there is pressure for me to go home early as it is my daughter's quarterlies this week. It was most significant to get home earlier yesterday because her exams for today are for Sibika and Math, subjects that she is quite weak in. You see right from the very beginning, I have spoken to my daughter in English. Because whether we admit it or not, there is a slight preference for people who are fluent in the language when they apply for work. I think I did a great job training her in that. However, she now has trouble speaking in the vernacular. Sibika is taught in the vernacular.
So there I was rushing to get home and traffic was pretty bad and it was slightly drizzling. In effect, was already in a foul mood when I got home. Lo and behold when I got there, I see her watching a DVD. Talk about the straw that broke the camel's back. So after a few choice words, I decided to have dinner and left her in the room with her books and near tears. One thing about parenting is that even though sometimes, we get so angry with our kids, there is always that guilty feeling when we reprimand them and they look at you with those teary, puppy dog eyes. So, I decided to stay away for a while to cool off.
When I got back, she was still studying. So I took her and seated her on my lap and asked her why she thought I got angry. She answered in a repentant tone: "Cause, I didn't study." I said "Good" and explained to her that what made it more unfortunate, was because she was getting low grades in Sibika which should be a reason for her to strive more. At the same time, I mentioned that I already have a hard time paying for her tuition (she studies in St. Paul-Pasig) and to see her not taking her studies seriously is a big let down for me. In effect, I gave her a rundown on the principles of cause and effect and that her choices/decisions in life will determine the cause and which in turn will of course, be followed by the effect. Then she goes, "I'm so sorry Dad." and I gave her a hug.
After that, she goes to her bag and hands me a paper and asks me to read it. It was a story! One she made up and written with her drawing.
EGAD! It just made me so proud to see it cause in effect, she inherited my love for writing. Never mind the grammatical errors and wrong spelling! All anger at that point vanished and I gave her a hug and kiss again. After studying we had a nice chat about writing. I'm just so proud right now.
Side note: Seeing how my daughter is right now and her attitude towards studying, I am reminded of my childhood. I never really was interested in school. The only reason I went so far as a master's degree was to get ahead in life. I just hope that she got the good traits and not the bad in me. Otherwise, KARMA is in the offing and I'm sure to pay for my past sins now! Hehehehe!
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Thanks Cris, that means a lot! Appreciate it very much!
Hope you are doing okay!
ang hirap magalit sa kanila ng matagal noh?! i’m pretty sure KARMA will find it’s way but since that you are being a good father… i think it’ll be easy on you in the near future..
ooohh!! she love mermaids??? hihi!! if i get to find one i will send her some pictures and that beautiful flower they wear on their hair that never withers!
by the way, bella wouldn’t happen to have a classmate named john or markie? or markle?…would she? hmmm…
Posted by ccc at August 2, 2007, 12:56 pmCCC, I know what you are driving at. Yeah, she did have a couple of classmates named as such but ……….now, may they rest in peace.
Hahahahaha! Am kidding of course.
She studies in an all girls school so she’s safe for the meantime! *Happy Grin from Virus*
Thanks for the vote of confidence, hopefully, what you mentioned about karma will be true.
Posted by ramblingvirus at August 2, 2007, 1:15 pmA very moving story man… I’m proud of you, you snooty EVE loving creature… hehehe
I will nominate you for Father of the Year! I’m serious.
Thanks Alvs. Though, I am far from being Father of the year, nevertheless thanks for the vote.
awww…. touching… I guess that by now you are really proud of your daughter… she’ll have a good future having you as his dad…
Posted by janus3185 at August 3, 2007, 9:15 amAww. Your daughter probably needs some relaxation Popsie, no need to scold her over a low grade. My mom kept on pushing us especially the younger ones to excel that my younger sisters now feel scared and ashamed whenever they get low grades. I’m sure you don’t want Bella to feel that way.
Posted by twistedkai at August 3, 2007, 2:09 pmThanks Janus!
TK, she already knew her weakness in those subjects but chose to watch tv instead. All I’m asking for is a little responsibility (sheesh, am sounding like a real dad! hahahaha). I don’t pressure her to aim for excellent marks. Though she knows there are rewards there as well. But I am in a way “nipping the problem in the bud”. Getting her to realize that she will get failing marks if she continues to neglect her studies.
Posted by ramblingvirus at August 5, 2007, 10:28 amwow!I found your blog via ws sign Google and I just wanted to say that I believe your writing is just stunning! Thanks again
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awwwww…. an awesome father indeed!!!
i’m sure your kids will grow up in a very nice way, with you around…
Posted by cris at August 2, 2007, 9:10 am