…To Forgive is Divine (or so they say)
March 26, 2007Why is forgiveness such a huge issue with a lot of people? Yesterday a priest sends me a text message, telling me that he hopes I attended mass yesterday and "heard the beautiful message of Jesus."
Gospel yesterday was about the stoning of Mary Magdalene and how Jesus, saved her from an angry mob. I don't know what my ex has been telling people, but hell, I think I have forgiven her enough not to even try to bite her head off when we get to see each other. So wtf was that text all about? I am not throwing any stones. Is it wrong for me to just get up and say "Enough is Enough!"?
For all intents and purposes, I feel that I have forgiven her for all that she did to me and to our two beautiful kids. Forgive YES! But do people really think that once I forgive her that I will take her back and we can live happily ever after? Bullshit! If that happens only my ex will be happy, whereas I will get thrown back into the world of uncertainty, a world of distraction, of not knowing and always wondering what she is doing and if she's out to hurt me again. To tell you frankly, although, I have forgiven my ex, there is that GREAT RELIEF I feel each time I get to talk to her and she shows (what I like to call) her ignorant-arrogance. Not fully comprehending WHY ALL OF THIS HAPPENED IN THE FIRST PLACE. Jeeezus H!
I am a man, capable of sinning (if not a sinner already) so why can't these people EXTEND the same understanding that they have soooo generously heaped on my ex??? Sheeesh, I am human, not a martyr and if they think I will be throwing away all my dreams for a life of misery, then I guess they have another think coming. I have lost a dream already, which is to have a contented happy family. So the solution really is to get rid of the problem.
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Ah touche Ma’m, hehehe! Take note, ma’m na lang sya.
But seriously, I just find it disturbing that these guys bark up my tree and continue to tell me that I am being too judgmental. Sigh, it’s so easy for them to say cause they never were at the receiving end.
Yes, I have noticed that too, that once I began accepting the fact that she will never change, it made it a lot easier for me to let go and forgive. BUT!! (and that’s a BIG BUT), I will never, ever, no matter how hard I try, be able to forget. Afterall, we read history to learn from it so that we DON’T commit the same mistakes again.
Thank you very much for the support Trish. You do not know how much that means to me. You are an angel in disguise, I presume.
Oh well, life goes on. Just wanted to get that off my chest.
Posted by ramblingvirus at March 26, 2007, 1:11 pmyou’re most welcome, SIR
hehehe. .nway, i’m not sure about the angel thingie. .i’ve always considered myself as one of the maldita ones! hahahaha
have a sunshiney day! *hugs*
I agree with you and Trish! I hate it when people tell me to take her back because she has suffered enough. I tell them one thing, “are you kidding me? I almost proposed to that two-timing demented loony ex of mine. She had her chance and blew it. ” Oh no, I promise her the last time we spoke that I will stop calling her my two-timing demented loony ex… Darn, whats wrong with me?
You’re doing the right thing. I would have told the priest off. hehehe Anyhow, the biggest revenge is for her to see you happily married(?) or living with someone sexier and prettier the soonest… I know someone for you! hahaha
Lagot ka Alvin! Sinabi mo nanaman yung TT word! Hehe! Habulin ka nun mamya.
Nah, to say something to the priest would only give him space in an already overcrowded brain. Save the brainspace for more meaningful pursuits.
Sige, Tita Trish, ayos lang tawagin mo akong sir.
Tell you this though, your perception of yourself might be entirely different from how the world perceives you.
i envy you for being able to forgive … i’ve always had an issue with forgiving people
Chillicheesecai,
Always remember that Forgiveness is more for you than for anyone else. To not be able to forgive and let go means that you will be bringing that heavy load of baggage with you where ever you go. It will weigh you down and towards the end, the bitterness, anger and hurt escape subconsciously and people you deal with might get a glimpse of it. Why not travel light?
I totally understand the feeling of forgiving, yet you still get hit with stones.
I guess that’s how man reacts with life. Save your own ass..
after all, who knows exactly how you’ve lived your life is nowhere here on earth diba??
Great to know you’ve forgiven her. I think that is what’s most important naman.
Posted by sweetperceptions at March 27, 2007, 10:09 amSP,
It could be stones or barking dogs. Point is the will to move forward. At anyrate, moving forward is as exciting as a new date. Well, from a guy’s point of view really.
and….
I am not saving my own ass! Just covering it a little, it gets kinda cold in the evenings ya know! Hehehe.
But seriously, what you wrote is very true. Only one being knows who we really are and how we live our life. That is why we should make every second count while we’re here, cause it’s a short life (well especially for me as I’m a smoker). So it’s not the length of your life but the quality of it that matters. Hmmm, my reply is getting pretty long. Maybe I will write more about forgiveness. Let us wait for lunch time and see if the creative juices will cooperate.
yeah.. moving on. it takes a lot of nerve to bravely do so.
PS: i was once a smoker too..
SP,
“once” a smoker? You don’t really believe that you have successfully kicked the habit do you? Hehehe.
Just kidding. I know I will quit someday…….most probably when I am six feet under the ground. Hehe.
Yep, the most important thing is to move on. Slowly at first, but once you get your groove, it becomes relatively easy.
Thanks very much for the kind words.
OI ALVIN!! kelangan magbenta ng katawan?? hahahahhaa!!! kayo talaga!
Posted by trish at March 27, 2007, 2:45 pmthank you guys..a lot of people are telling me that i am seein myself in a whole new different point..e ano ba talaga kasi?!
i dont feel so good about myself, but i am so freakin good at making other ppl feel good about themselves..huhuhu..freak ba ko?!
A freak you are not Ma’m Twish!
Maybe a little looney but that’s just about all the flaws I can see. Hihihi.
Just kidding ma’m. Maybe it would be best to take one’s advice. A lot of people seem to find wisdom in your words, and I tend to agree with them. Now before you sleep, when you are lying down, you reflect, and think what is so loveable about you. All you need to do is think of all our collective words and voila! You have your answers.
..which is none..
HAHAHHAHAA!! sorry, i haven’t slumbered yet!
Posted by trish at March 27, 2007, 11:13 pmNone? I could pour out some really good words here to describe my first impression of you, pero hiya ako eh. (blush daw o!) Hahahaha.
But seriously, trust me………they’re all good.
nyaaaa! para bang makahiya na nadaanan ng tsinelas??
thanks tsong! self-esteem up one notch! woohoo! hehehe..
Posted by trish at April 3, 2007, 8:04 pmCool! Mission Accomplished!
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let me share with you one of my journal entry “in the past..i’ve always been hasty, yet cautious.. i am the type who reserves her sentiment for someone worthy of affection and time…but..i wonder how i always end up with people who either mock me or take advantage of the fact that i am unprejudiced..well..this time i couldn’t care less…relationships are made and broken everyday..those who lose it are always faced with the difficult task of moving on alone..what most of us refuse to understand is that we cannot move on without acceptance in our hearts…i have learned to forgive.. however i cannot bring myself to forget the past…”
Posted by trish at March 26, 2007, 12:43 pm